Delaying Sex After Marriage, Greatest Rewards

With the upward trend of cohabitation as a trial marriage, couples who wait to have sex until marriage are quickly becoming a minority in western countries. The general consensus is that exploration of sexual compatibility before the lifelong commitment would lead to a better marriage and by not doing one's marriage will be adversely impacted. If such belief were true, does it mean saving sex for marriage would lead to a worse marriage? A study in the American Psychological Association's Journal of Family Psychology indicates that waiting after marriage not only does not harm a relationship, it actually provides many benefits. The study conducted by Brigham Young University's School of … [Continue reading]

Does Forgiveness Mean You Have to Marry? – 2

Responding to your letter. I believe the main thing you are dealing with is loss, and an accompanying broken heart. You became emotionally attached to these two women, and that activated all of your longings and yearnings for a life partner you could trust and build a life together. Your biblical values are right on, yet the loss has been severe enough to cause you to questions them. This exacerbates your "trauma" because it calls into question what you believe about and have trusted in God. Finding out that these two girls had been sexually involved with another man (especially a non-Christian) has hurt you deeply because you have lost several things, such as: A sense of … [Continue reading]

Keep It Above the Belt

No touching below the belt rule

I am a 20-year old female college student. I have always desired to remain abstinent until marriage and fully intend to keep that promise to myself and to God. My boyfriend is a 27-year old professional who lives in a remote town and is very … [Continue reading]